Recap: The special dinner Zani arranged has had the desired effect. Not entirely due to the menu, of course, surely those high heels also played a part …
Jake takes the lead and delivers a faultless presentation of his findings.
“Sweetie, what I understand about preconceptual care is that it gets Mom and Dad ready to fall pregnant. But one of the problems – can’t remember where I read it – is that sometimes a woman may not even realise she’s pregnant.”
Raised eyebrows. I can see his mind ticking over.
“Nothing wrong with working or playing, of course,” he continues after a bit. “It’s just the rest of it may be a little – er … – let’s say ‘prohibiting’. The effects of smoking, alcohol and drugs …” A smile plays on his lips. “Even legitimate over-the-counter drugs, I mean. Like medication. And the lack of sleep, too. These things can take their toll on the body, on lifestyle, even on relationships.”
He has clearly done his homework.
“Research shows that a couple [I notice it isn’t a matter of ‘we’ yet] need to prepare their bodies for at least three months before they start trying to fall pregnant. This article,” he says, waving a printout, “is a summary of the areas people need to focus on to increase fertility and create the best possible environment in which to conceive a baby.”
I am paying attention to semantics here.
“Here, take a look … You’ll see there are four main areas a couple should pay attention to: health, nutrition, exercise and stress.”
I am so impressed with my man as he sits there on the bed, cross-legged and with his early-morning stubble. Here he is, approaching what is clearly a very emotional and sensitive issue for both him and me in such a clear-headed and practical manner. Of course, Anxiety is desperate to chime in and point out that he is talking about preconceptual care as though it has nothing to do with us, but I refuse to be swayed. This is Jake’s noble attempt at perspective, and I am going to let him have his say.
I take his printout, and settle back against the pillows. This is going to be interesting.
The health of both partners is important and determines the quality of the male’s sperm and the female’s egg. The quality of the sperm and the egg determines the quality of the product of their fusion – a baby.
Hormones are manufactured from nutrients in food and in the absence of a fully functional digestive system in both partners, nutrients cannot be broken down and absorbed in the cells to produce healthy sperm and eggs. Junk food can lead to hormonal chaos.
So far, so good, I think. Although I knew there’d be an issue with junk food. While I have to admit that Jake does tend to take really good care of himself, there is still the beer, the burgers … He is going to struggle, I just know it.
Do not diet [his underlining here does not go unnoticed], especially diets with very high protein intake, because that disturbs the acid-alkaline balance. A weight gain of between 8 and 13 kilograms is generally advised. During pregnancy weight gain in excess of 15 kilograms tends to lower the IQ of the baby.
Falling pregnant is not for sissies, that’s for sure. I look over at Jake. He is watching me as I read, trying to gauge my reactions as I scan over his notes. I know what he is waiting for, what he wants me to say, but he isn’t going to crack me that easily.