I’ll figure it out! Recap: When Zani googles ‘pregnancy and birth’, a zillion websites pop up, flooding her with the enormity of the choices and responsibility involved in becoming a parent. She manages to calm herself, and soon her sense of wonder and her usual tenacity return.
My heart is neatly tucked away, my head on full throttle, jotting down the topics as they appear on the screen: how to choose a partner to raise the baby’s IQ; to have one child or more; SES (socio-economic status); stress and the role of Dad; windows of opportunity; nature or nurture; working mothers; perfect parents; lifestyle and pregnancy; how to fall pregnant (wow, at least that I know!!); Mozart is a must; and so it goes on and on.
I push back from my desk, close my eyes and pinch the bridge of my nose, shaking my head. How on earth did previous generations raise children without all this knowledge? Who do I believe? How do people in rural areas raise intelligent children without all the toys and extra-mural activities? How do I tell a fad from the real thing?
Write down the steps on how to tackle a problem head on:
There. Twelve steps. That’s a plan, isn’t it? With goals and aims and strategies even.
Although I may not realise all the implications, this is probably my first step on a long, long journey. Buoyed up by a renewed sense of energy, I prepare to follow this path I’ve set. Pen in hand, I move on, filling in the blanks …
STEP 1: FOCUS ON A SPECIFIC AND MEASURABLE GOAL
STEP 2: RESEARCH THE TOPIC
STEP 3: MAKE A SHORT LIST OF AREAS THAT NEED FURTHER RESEARCH
Sigh. This is a long list. Very long. And I am feeling more than a little daunted, a little nervous actually. But I am determined to stick to it. Follow the path, follow the plan …